Happy New Year! Resolution: Getting Better At Being Bad At Things

Happy New Year, Caveness Community! 2017 was a challenging year for so many people. Truly, it was one for the books - whether your personal journey through last year was a positive or negative one, I'm sure it grew you up, spit you out, and has left you ripe for some amazing things to flourish in 2018. 

In that spirit, I wanted to share this short-but-sweet article from Ta-Nehisi Coates. It's about something that has taken me 32 years to come to terms with, and something I am constantly striving for, myself. That something is this: being better at being bad at things. 

As a perfectionist, I have always had a really hard time being bad at things. Not because I wasn't bad at them - oh, no. Believe me, there are lots of things I've been bad at, even singing. I mean, I am bad at letting myself be bad at things. This is so hard for me. I'd rather almost not try at all, then try and suck at something. But. Guess what. You HAVE to be bad at something to be able to get good at it. It's very rare you're going to start anything and be blessed with ease and style whilst doing it. No, no, no, my sweets. You're gonna suck at it. And you SHOULD. It's through the sucking, and the frustration, and the breaking-down-in-tears-screaming-profanities (umm.....just for an example?!), that you claw your way through to the good stuff. It's not about being perfect at first - it's about little by little recommitting to something, and seeing something get smoothed over, uncovered, like a stone under a river's waters. 

So, for me, 2018 is going to be all about being BAD at things, doing the things that scare the shit out of me, and just GOING for it. I hope you'll join me on this messy, beautiful endeavor.